Tired Of Trying, But Never Tipping The Scale? Maybe Your Goals Are To Blame
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR? “Starting tomorrow, I’m not going to eat any crap and in 2 months I’ll be in the best shape of my life.” Did it happen?
Why is it that so many of us make the same New Year’s resolution year after year expecting a different result from the year before? How is it that people go on crash diets, only to end up heavier than they were before they started? According to Amy Cuddy, social psychologist and associate professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School, our goals are too big, too broad and too focused on the outcome over growth (listen to her talk on Big Think).
If you’re feeling down about not being able to achieve your weight loss goals, you are not alone! A shift in your approach could be the answer to making a positive lifestyle change. Here are a few tips:
Change your mindset not your mind.
You want to be fit and healthy, awesome! Instead of obsessing over looking like Gigi Hadid or Ryan Gosling and getting all bummed out when that doesn’t happen, focus on personal growth, on becoming a healthier version of you. Making incremental change over a longer period of time will give you smaller, more realistic milestones to celebrate and motivate you for the next challenge. So ask yourself: what can I do today to make positive change? It could be as simple as drinking three litres of water or eating more vegetables.
Give yourself realistic, well-planned goals.
Trying to lose 15 pounds by Christmas? Rather than fixating on the outcome, focus on the steps you need to take in order to get there. When something feels impossible, it can be really demotivating. Think about what you want to achieve today or this week in order to get you to your three month goal, and make sure it's realistic. A healthy number would be one-two pounds/week—depending on how much you have to lose. Keep track of your progress each week to keep you honest and motivated.
Focus on the process.
There shouldn’t be a start or an end date to your “diet” and making too many drastic changes to your lifestyle at the same time is not sustainable or fun. This is why crash diets don’t work. Let your journey guide you and your body will change—perhaps without even realizing it. And who knows? You may even enjoy your healthy diet and lifestyle changes.
Measure success based on how you feel, not how you look.
If you’re feeling proud of the progress you've made and motivated to continue, that is success. Remember, at the core of your weight loss goal is a desire to feel good about yourself. Focus on your inner self and give your body some love—it will love you back!
And if you’re totally lost, find someone to help you manage and plan your goals. An investment in your health—whether that’s a personal trainer or a health coach—will pay for itself in the long run.